One night at dinner with the bestie and the conversation of relationships comes up (as it always does), focused on the topic: ATTRACTION.
The story begins with her going on a date with the "safe" guy. You know the one! He has a good job, good morals, no kids, loves his mama, has life & love goals, pays his bills on time even rent, financially stable, and will treat you right. Yeah that guy.
So I ask her, "How was the date?"
She says, "Great, great conversation, great energy, great food, an overall great time, BUT I am not attracted to him."
I asked her to elaborate. Is he not cute to you OR is he universally ugly? Universally ugly is exactly what it sounds like.The guy who even if you squint you can't make him cute. No matter how many times you blink, the image doesn't get better. Like if you were blind, you would know from his voice he wasn't attractive. Yeah, universally ugly.
Anyway she says, "I am just not attracted to him."
"I mean does his breath smell, a large mole on his face, teeth introduce themselves before he did?? What is missing, what am I missing?" But no, just not attracted to him.
I automatically assume she is not going to see him again, but she did anyway.
She goes on to talk about how this is the problem, the guy that is good on paper is not the guy she goes for and the bad guys are always the trouble but she can't keep away from them. (You and the other millions of women) So she didn't want to give up on this guy just because of attraction. That blew my mind because physical attraction is important, VERY important and anyone who says otherwise is just funny looking. Yeah, funny looking. Listen I have dated my fair share of bad guys (insert every terrible relationship story you know) and I have passed on the good guys as well. However, here is my theory, if the good guy can't make my woohaa, woohaa then what are we doing here?
Just call me Busta Rhymes.......
I know a relationship based on sexual attraction cannot work or better yet is not healthy, but a relationship without it can't work either. Who wants to be with someone that you don't want sexually? Who wants someone that you have to convince yourself you like them? Everyone wants to be desired. We all want to be at an event and lock eyes across the room and his eyes say, I want you now, in the bathroom. Owwwwwww
So make sure you find the guy who's good and bad all at the same time. Cause truthfully that's what he's looking for too.
#dearfutureboyfriend my wooha needs to wooha