FIRST OF ALL, I am a firm believer that different types of relationships work for different types of people.
But for now, this is my truth.
I have dealt with long distance relationships twice in my 20s, once in my 30s and I vow to NEVER do it again.
During these long distance relationships, two cheated & the third one accused me of cheating so much I almost did! I said to myself, what the hell and why the hell?
It takes so much thought and effort to nurture someone who is not easily accessible. Talking on the phone everyday, planned trips to visit each other, facetime, text messages, letters, and on and on. It is hard enough being consistent with those things when you live in the same damn city. Seriously, just think about it. When you have an argument, you can't pop up at their house and work it out, or slash their tires for that matter (Oh just me?). You can't just go to a movie, go to dinner, go get froyo!!! (You know I love froyo, PINKBERRY all day!)
I concluded that long distance relationships are like trying to water your plants on vacation, either the plants die or someone else will take care of them.
Explain? Sure. The plants dying is your relationship dying. Plants need water, sunlight, attention just like your relationship. Only so much can be fulfilled when living in different cities. Eventually someone gets tired of the monotonous phone conversations and countless text messages without being able to kiss you and go on adventures. You hang on as long as you can but your relationship fades and becomes nonexistent. The excitement of seeing each other after going a long time without, disappears honey. It turns into your face gets on my nerves, I can't stand your face. Straight up resentment. The facetime and phone calls turn into just text messages which turn into giving the excuses,
"I called you, you didn't get my call?" or
"I was working late"
Oh and my favorite " I was sleep."
Oh wait, my real favorite, "Oh I didn't get your text"
You know I am telling the truth. Relationship over!
And someone else taking care of the plants is exactly what is sounds like, cheating. Eventually your partner finds someone else to grab dinner with, someone to go see Black Panther with, someone to be their plus one at an event. And in no time your partner is trying to figure out why they should put in all this effort for someone who DOESN'T LIVE HERE, when there are PLENTY of people that do! I digress.
So, long distance is just not for me, it is too difficult.
To the men who love me from afar, it will never work, I don't have a long enough hose to make sure you are nurtured and cared for.
#dearVerizon I don't need that long distance package. Thanks.