I mean can we talk?
Can I just be honest here?
Okay, I wish when I was growing up someone told me the truth about dating. I wish someone would've sat me down and let me know that dating is not created equal.
Dating in high school, you think you love them but you don't.
Dating in your 20s, you do love them but they don't.
Dating in your 30s, you don't love them but they do.
Dating in your 40s... Well I haven't gotten that far yet but apparently from the trend neither of you love each other! LOL Will that mean in your 50s you both love each other or does the cycle start from the beginning? Whew chile!
Why didn't someone tell me this? Why didn't anyone prepare me for this crisis? Maybe if I was told when I was a teenager I would've been more able to deal with the pattern. Maybe I would've skipped some relationships or maybe I would have held onto some and worked it out. Probably would have skipped more than kept, but that is not the point. The point is, we don't know. But what I do know is I am making sure my young girls understand the cycle. They need to understand that dating is not perfect. Dating can be difficult. Dating can be unfair. Dating can be tough. Dating is not created equal. And I know I can't prepare them for everything but I can try. I can encourage them to love themselves so much that they know when to stay and when to leave the relationship, no matter at what age.
And of course there are exceptions to the rule. Of course there are relationships that you will enter that will be great and end out like your fairy tale. But more often than not, you will be subject to the mania. You will experience the ups and downs of men being men and life being life. So just be ready.
Please remember if you take care of yourself, the roller coaster ride of relationships will definitely get you down but you will always get back up. When you are healthy, you are able to move on from unfortunate situations and not be afraid to try again. You don't allow your past pain to dictate your future and ruin any relationships thereafter. You got this. Just remember you may not find that special someone until you're 50. Ha!
#deardating I think I got it now.